Bullying in schools remains one of the most persistent and damaging issues affecting Filipino students today. Recognizing the long-term harm it brings to children’s mental health and overall well-being, the Department of Education (DepEd) has rolled out several policies and programs aimed at putting a stop to this toxic culture.
One of the most notable efforts is DepEd Order No. 40, s. 2012, or the Child Protection Policy, which outlines clear guidelines for preventing and addressing cases of abuse, violence, exploitation, discrimination, and bullying in schools. This was further strengthened by Republic Act No. 10627, more commonly known as the Anti-Bullying Act of 2013, which mandates all elementary and secondary schools to adopt policies that address bullying in all its forms.
These are commendable moves—clear signs that the government is taking the issue seriously. Schools are now required to implement reporting mechanisms, create child protection committees, and enforce disciplinary measures for offenders. But let’s be real: laws and orders alone will not make bullies disappear.
Bullies don't just operate within the boundaries of school policies—they adapt, they hide, and they wait for the right moment to strike. What these initiatives do is make it harder for them to act openly. But unless we dig deeper into the root of the problem, bullying will remain a shadow waiting to resurface.
So, where does the real change begin?
At home. With the parents.
Children don’t learn behavior in a vacuum. They absorb what they see, especially from their parents. If a child grows up in a household where respect is practiced, empathy is taught, and discipline is consistent—not abusive, but guiding—they are less likely to become a bully or tolerate bullying behavior.
On the flip side, a child who witnesses aggression, disrespect, or unchecked anger at home might carry that into their interactions with peers. That’s why parenting plays the most crucial role in solving bullying—not just preventing it at school, but stopping it from developing in the first place.
Parents must understand that teaching respect, modeling kindness, and instilling discipline are not optional—they are necessary. These values don’t just prepare kids for school; they prepare them for life.
In conclusion, while DepEd’s orders and the Anti-Bullying Act provide important protections and clear systems for accountability, they are only part of the puzzle. Real, lasting change starts at home. If we want to truly stop bullying, we must raise a generation that knows the value of respect—not because they fear punishment, but because it’s the right thing to do.
What Should the Government Do?
While schools have their part in preventing bullying, the government must place a significant focus on the home environment, where real change begins. Here’s what needs to be done:
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Support Parenting Education
The government should invest in parenting education programs that teach parents how to instill respect, discipline, and emotional intelligence in their children. These programs can be offered through community centers, online platforms, and local government units. By providing resources on positive discipline and conflict resolution, parents will be better equipped to guide their children’s behavior and values. -
Create Safe Spaces for Parents to Seek Help
The government should facilitate parent support networks or counseling services where parents can ask for advice on raising well-rounded children. In many communities, parents may feel overwhelmed and isolated in their role. Having access to support can encourage open conversations about how to handle behavioral issues at home. -
Promote Public Campaigns on Respect and Empathy
Government-led initiatives should focus on promoting core values such as respect, kindness, and empathy at the national level. Through media campaigns, schools, and community-based programs, the government can influence public attitudes toward these values. This will help build a culture where these principles are not only taught at home but reinforced throughout society. -
Provide Resources for Parents to Improve Mental Health Literacy
Parenting is complex, and sometimes a child’s behavior is tied to deeper issues like stress or trauma. The government should provide mental health education resources for parents, guiding them on how to identify and address mental health issues in their children. This could include workshops or online materials about recognizing signs of emotional distress and how to seek professional help when needed. -
Support Community and Barangay-Level Programs
The government should invest in community-based programs that offer mentorship, youth leadership training, and positive recreational activities for children. These programs can teach important life skills outside the school environment, helping children learn how to manage their emotions, resolve conflicts peacefully, and build strong relationships.
Final Thoughts
DepEd’s policies are crucial, but they are just one part of the solution. To truly solve the problem of bullying, the government must focus on strengthening the foundation of the home. With well-supported parents and communities, we can raise children who understand the importance of respect, kindness, and empathy.
At the end of the day, bullying starts at home, and it is there that lasting change must begin. With proper guidance, education, and support, we can raise a generation that values respect—not because they fear punishment, but because they understand the inherent goodness in treating others with dignity.